Apologies for the lack of blogging of late, but I’ve been very busy napping! These first few weeks are all about survival I’m afraid and thankfully the little lady has been pretty good at napping in her moses basket during the day allowing me some much needed shut eye to function properly!
We are now just over four weeks in and I can’t believe how quickly time is flying by. Phoebe is just fab and I am absolutely loving being a mummy of two, even though it has made leaving the house seem an impossible task and takes me an unprecedented amount of time! I am so lucky that Jack has been incredible with her. He kisses and cuddles her all the time and he hasn’t shown the slightest hint of jealousy yet for which I am so so grateful.
So here is my 4 week postpartum update…
My recovery is going really well. I’ve been signed off by the midwife and entering week three saw the pain of my stitches disappear thank goodness!
My uterus contracted down to its original size in the first week ( thanks to the unrelentless breastfeeding!) which I was so glad about as the after pains were horrendous! They say they are stronger with subsequent children and they’re not wrong! I don’t think I had any with Jack so this time it was a real shock to the system!
I’ve started to bleed quite heavily again which I am attributing to doing too much, too soon. Last week we went on a mammoth walk to a friends house with me pushing the buggy and toddler on a buggy board in the sweltering heat, which in hindsight was a bad idea! I called triage to make sure it’s nothing too sinister (after google informed me it could be a late postpartum hemorrhage) but they have just advised to keep an eye on it and it is probably due to nothing more than over exertion.
Thankfully, my body feels like it is bouncing back really quickly and I was back in my pre pregnancy jeans 2 weeks after giving birth to Phoebe, hurrah! There is obviously a lot of weight still to lose, but at the moment I’m averaging a packet of chocolate digestives a day so can’t see it dropping off anytime soon!
I’ve lost over a stone in the four weeks so far but I’m still about a stone heavier than I was pre pregnancy but weight loss isn’t a massive priority for me right now (although maybe it should be with summer holidays looming!) I’m just focusing on eating well (apart from my biscuit weakness!) and drinking litres of water and fennel tea for the breastfeeding benefits.
Before having children I was blissfully ignorant about how tiring and demanding the first three months with a newborn can be.
With Jack, I really didn’t anticipate how the lack of sleep and the energy demanded for breastfeeding would affect me. I was so tired, all the time, that I became very emotional and irrational and probably wasn’t much fun to be around for my poor husband. I had a severe case of the baby blues (and maybe even post natal depression) crying at the drop of a hat and often crying for no reason. On most occasions I didn’t even know why I was crying; nothing specific triggered the tears to flow apart from my crazy hormones raging through my body. I didn’t in a million years imagine this would happen, I always thought I would handle motherhood with ease, but I also had never been THAT tired. Thankfully as my hormones balanced back out, the fog lifted and the tears stopped. I was finally able to enjoy my little bundle.
Now 4 weeks in to life with Phoebe and thankfully the anxiety and baby blues have passed me by this time and I’m savouring every moment with my little lady. I’m so much more relaxed which makes life so much more enjoyable!
As for the little lady…
She was a chunky little thing at birth, 8lb 9oz and hasn’t dropped an ounce since! She has steadily gained weight at every weigh in and at her last check up was a healthy 9lb 7oz.
She has definitely elongated over the past few weeks too and is now filling out her ‘up to one month’ baby grows which seemed ginormous on her at birth and is also dipping into her 0-3 month wardrobe!
I’m a huge advocate of a structured routine but it is still too early to implement just yet as she is just being fed on demand at the moment.
Having said that a pattern is now emerging of 3 hourly feeds which is most welcome after numerous days of what has felt like non stop nursing over the last few weeks.
We have also just started a bedtime routine which so far has worked a treat and enabled us to eat our dinner in peace and have a few hours of downtime together which is bliss. I do a split feed, with Phoebe having a feed whilst Jack has his dinner at 5.30pm. This ensures she’s not fractious when I bathe her about 6pm which she seems to rather enjoy now. I then feed her again so she is suitably milk drunk and pretty much conks out as soon as I put her in her basket!
We then get a good 3 hour stint normally before she wakes and the night shift commences!
In the first few weeks, Phoebe had a real aversion to sleeping on her back so spent a lot of time sleeping on our chests! She’d sleep on daddy, in the evenings until he came to bed, enabling me to have a few hours of solid uninterrupted sleep in bed and then would alternate between sleeping in her basket and on me throughout the night!
This all came to an end last Saturday after spending all day in the children’s ward at our local hospital where she was diagnosed with reflux and is now on medication which seems to be helping her enormously! We now have a little girl that will happily sleep on her back! Phew!
She generally wakes up for three feeds in the night which isn’t too bad (roughly midnight, 3.30am and 5am) and thankfully she doesn’t seen to wake up properly so is pretty easy to get back to sleep again after her feed.
She is currently sleeping in my room in her Moses basket and daddy has been shipped off to another bedroom so he can get some sleep! I love having her near, despite the crazy noises she makes!
Thankfully I’ve been lucky enough to breastfeed successfully again this time around. It’s something that I’m a huge advocate of and I’m really thankful that I’ve been able to do it again as I know so many mums have real difficulties.
At the moment Phoebe is solely breastfed and as mentioned above normally feeds every 3 hours or so. Having said that, she has had numerous ‘hungry’ days over the last 4 weeks where she wants feeding every 1/2 hours but I think they could have been due to growth spurts.
For a few days, she reacted badly to the antibiotics I was taking for my mastitis and became really fussy when feeding but since I stopped taking them she is back to her calm and content self which is a relief as was pretty much crying in pain non stop!
She is still in up to 1 month clothes and size 1 nappies but has worn a few of her 0-3 month outifts over the last few days due to the glorious weather and it won’t be long until she fits into them properly as they no longer swamp her like they used to.
Development and playing
She’s an alert little thing and has been from the off which is lovely. She’s also incredibly strong, lifting her head up continually to have a good nosey around and study people’s faces.
She has just started to tolerate being placed on her playmat and even managed to grab some of the dangly toys which was pretty impressive, but could have just been luck! Unfortunately she has also started to grab her hair and pulls it so hard she makes herself cry!
She has also given us a few smiles which has been lovely!
On a Monday to Wednesday, my days are spent with Phoebe as Jack is with his buddies at nursery for 2 days and spends a day with my parents who he is totally besotted with. This works out perfectly; I get to spend 3 days concentrating on my little lady and Jack has fun filed days where he isn’t tied down to days revolving around feeding a newborn!
Thursdays and Fridays are the three of us which I love. I REALLY miss spending my days focusing on Jack but like I said before he has been brilliant adapting to the change and it won’t be long until the two of them can play together!
Our first outing as a threesome was to the Mecca of new mums, John Lewis and it was thankfully drama free! Phoebe slept the whole trip so Jack and I were able to shop, browse and ride the elevators in peace!
We have also spent a lot of time having play dates with friends at each other’s houses and with the weather being so glorious, we have spent most days in the garden cooling down in the paddling pool!
Last week we ventured to our first playgroup session and it was great. Again Phoebe slept for the whole duration which enabled me to fully concentrate on Jack so we did a lot of crafting; he has a lovely set of ‘teddy ears’ to show for it and just had a lovely time revelling in my full attention for once.
So that’s the roundup of our last four weeks. I’ll update you again soon.